Wordless Wednesday: Becoming Theirs

The following things were initiated by sisters:

 “Mommy, can we have a picnic with Hannah?”
“Here, Hannah, here’s a bottle for you… just pretend!”
“I read Hannah a book,” 
she said after getting Hannah a doll to hold.
Another victim of sharing
“Mommy, can I rock Hannah?”
“My turn, my turn!!!”  
After she got settled, “Now Mommy take a picture.”
(And yes, Hannah’s smiling.)

– yep, my heart melted. =)

The Five of Us

I’m going to take this quiet moment to post another update on our little family before what I presume to be a bit of a silence as we settle in to our life of being a family of five.

On Hannah’s birthday (Wednesday), we had the girls come up to meet their sister after their naps. When after their naps turned into post-dinner, Matt and I were anxious to see our two little girls and then usher them on to their slumbers (so we could get ours). While the girls were running on the last fumes of an out of the ordinary day of excitement, they were very curious about Hannah.

The Reactions:

Rachael, when coming into the hospital room, immediately ran to me with a hug and then instantly realized someone was holding a baby. She instinctively went to investigate as “this is Hannah, your sister” was resounded from family in the room. Rachael’s nurturing kicked into full gear naturally and she began snuggling and kissing Hannah’s little head. She stroked the baby’s head, staking her place firmly as her guardian. 😉

 Aww, look at her loving on Hannah.

Abi when coming into the hospital room immediately ran to Mommy and stayed there hugging me for about five minutes. I missed you too, my little Abi. When Abi realized there was a baby in Goga’s (My Mom’s) lap, Abi was concerned at first, announcing Hannah’s little baby noises to be “baby’s crying”. It took her a moment to really absorb that Hannah was alive and more than just a bundled doll. Of course the prospect of holding a baby delighted our dear, independent toddler who threw herself onto the couch and stuck her arms out as if we planned on just handing her the weightless Hannah. 😉 And her joy? Oh it was contagious.

My little, holding my littlest. =)

And then she initiated her own affections for her little sister.

Hannah’s reaction? Well as you can see, she just slept the whole time, clueless of their presence or even being passed around. It was her first solid nap on this side of the womb so the poor baby was knocked out cold.

It was cool to witness the next day during the girls’ visit, the normalcy that seemed to be taking hold as the reality crept in. Rachael and Abi were well rested and full of energy, but in many ways they were back to their old ways with less of the bottled nervous excitement. Without a real schedule and no pressing dinner needs, we were able to visit with more relaxation.  The girls brought their hospital bags (my dear friend, Darlene, mailed them goody bags for entertainment during their hospital trips) and happily colored, ate snacks and shared.

Hannah’s routine check occurred while the girls were there and there was instant fascination. I was so grateful for the nursing staff’s desire to answer kid questions and help build the bridge between Ms. crying Hannah and her concerned sisters. During the check-up I think is one of the firs times Abi really realized Hannah was real. She was very concerned about Hannah’s well-being and it was really the first time Abi took on a “big sister” roll in her concern. My mom and the nurses were fantastic in reassuring Abi that they were not hurting Hannah and helping to normalize the “new to Abi” cries of a newborn.

We also got the opportunity to take Hannah for a walk through the Mother/Baby Unit hallways. Rachael and Abi helped push Hannah along in her rolling crib-cart as we all enjoyed the delights of hallway art, windows outside, a scale (we all needed to be weighed), and peeking into the nursery from the outside glass. We were happy to discover a Daddy in there caring for his newborn girl which brought up all kinds of conversation about babies. It was also the first time I realized that while Hannah is a deceptive 10lb baby (she’s primarily just seriously long, but has a small head and small feet and is well-balanced weight-wise) she is certainly big in comparison to little scrawny newborns. hehe.

After an animal cracker snack, Daddy escorted Rachael and Abi downstairs to the exit and grabbed himself something to eat on the way back up. The departure this time was a little more difficult for the girls since they weren’t quite as keen on us staying at the hospital a second night, but the hope of us all coming home the following day added to Daddy’s escort seemed to help in the equation.

Hannah and I had a quiet few moments alone while Daddy was transitioning with the girls and enjoyed some special snuggle time.

Then came a harder night with latching problems, Hannah discovering her pterodactyl scream (ouch!) and a general discontentment presiding over our once-gentler daughter. While it was a rough night, not going to lie, it was reassuring to discover in the morning that those behaviors are normal for a newborn (especially a breastfed one) on day two and day three due to them trying to figure out the balance of fussiness/feeding in the context of encouraging Mom’s milk to come in. 

This morning (Friday) we “slept in” til almost 9am (I called it napping since I had only gotten about an hour of consistent sleep from 11p – 7a). Hannah’s jaundice count was taken again, for some reason someone chose 6am as a good morning wake-up time. And we found ourselves doing “the lasts” to prepare for our hospital discharge. 

Hannah’s thrilled to go home…. really. 😉

Doctors visited, paperwork was drawn up, and the girls and my mom arrived to bring us home. 

After loading up the car with three children, 1/2 a country’s worth of luggage, and two tired parents, we circled round to pull out of the parking lot when we saw a familiar woman waving down our car. It was my mom. Puzzled we wondered why she wasn’t in her car. She then explained that her car would not start. So since Mom’s car was blocked in on all sides by various other vehicles, we popped up our second stow-away captain’s chair in the van, loaded in more luggage to the car, and added my Mom to our van-load with promises to return to the hospital at less “visiting hours” time to jump her car and bring it back. So it was a funny little spin on our “uneventful” discharge from the hospital. 


Back at home the girls went down for their much-needed naps, Matt and I ate lunch, Hannah was fed/rediapered, Mat started and I transferred laundry, and we proceeded to settle in. After caring for Hannah’s needs, I started to nod off on the couch (something about having slept a total of 7 hours over the past 3 nights) and found my refuge snuggling Ms. Hannah in my own bed. I awoke groggily to a confusing scene of people coming in to visit, later streaming it all together to being various instances of my girls and Matt beckoning me to dinner. Homemade pizza, thanks for the expert cooking of my Mom and the girls’ topping distribution, hit the spot in more ways than one. 

With bedtime around the corner, the girls played, cleaned up (reluctantly) and were ushered back into a variation of their normal routine (extra cuddling was needed for the toddler and extra attention for the preschooler to reassure them without words that they are still “our girls” and are not being replaced). Hannah was gracious to snuggle my mom with minimal vocalizing. 😉

After the girls were tucked into bed, Matt and Mom left to go retrieve Mom’s car and enjoy the fun of night-time grocery shopping. That left Hannah and I and a quiet house. Hannah HIGHLY reluctantly received her first bath at home 

 Sponge bath = no good.

and then found her comfort in the swaddling wrap. 

 Swaddling wrap = good.

And then I got to sit down here in the quiet and record the blessings of the first few days of “the five of us” while yawning. =)

So thus far on out there will probably be a little lull of “long” blog posts. You can only do a “new family” the right way once so I’d like to turn my attention from the blog/electronic communications to communicating love, trust, and full attention (or as much as can be given between naps) to this wonderful family in which God has graced us.


Thank you for your love and support and encouragement. 

We are so excited and delight to get the opportunity to settle in to 

“the five of us”. =)


A Wonderful Birthday Celebration.

*written yesterday but didn’t have time to post til today.

We started out yesterday morning coming in to be induced at 5am. While 5am was an early start to the day (since the day really started at 3:30a for me), we were excited at the surreal joy of finally getting to meet our Hannah. One last photo of the bump before suiting up in the gorgeous hospital gown 😉 and starting the IV.

They began the induction with a very small dose of Pitocin at 6am. It was a little slow going from the 3cm I started at to 4cm that we finally accomplished five hours later. They slowly inched the Pitocin up during the first five hours. And then after 12mL of pitocin per minute, my body took over and ran the rest of the labor without need for further induction.

The labor was primarily a lot of back labor and tailbone pain added to the laboring contractions. So I happily received an epidural at 4cm dilation and 75% effacement. Unfortunately the first epidural was a “dud”, but once it was removed and reapplied, my joy and smile returned. =)

I went from 5cm to 6 and almost 7cm in an hour and a half. Then I moved to 8, almost 9cm in twenty five minutes and landed at 10cm five minutes later. Yeah… the second half of labor went fast. And here’s the funny, quirkiness of my daughter. I was dilated to 10cm and fully effaced… and Hannah still had not dropped. hehe. No sooner had the nurse told me to notify her of any pressure I may have that the pressure of Hannah slowly descending into the birth canal was felt. Dr. K was still in transit from the office when I felt the first desire to push. I ignored that desire, waiting out Dr. K’s arrival.

I felt relieved when the nurses asked me to take a couple of preparatory pushes and then Dr. K walked into the room shortly thereafter. When I first started delivery pushes I felt immediately that Hannah was big. And after six or seven rounds of three/four pushes a piece, Hannah was out and under the lights. Physically Hannah’s delivery affects on my body were the gentlest to date via delivery. For that I was grateful for no additional drama and am currently blessed to be healing well and mobile.

Hannah was born at 2:12pm on September 5th, 2012 at a whopping 10lbs, 10 ounces and 24 inches long.

Yes, I birthed a 3 month old. 😉 And she couldn’t be healthier.

Hannah blessed me by immediately taking to nursing with a kind latch and has been a valiant learner since. I am thankful for the leeway of her ten pound self to teach her to get her suck organized without the urgency of jaundice or a low birth weight.

Still under twenty-four hours old, Hannah has been kind to Matt and I with her sweet little personality desiring uninterrupted close snuggling. She prefers to listen to Matt and my heartbeat and breathing while nuzzling her little face into our necks. She has a wonderful set of mature lungs that find their power when poked and prodded by nursing staff, but otherwise just complains in bird-like pathetic squawks when she feels that Mommy and Daddy are too far away.

Rachael and Abi came up to meet our newest family member the evening of the 5th, delighting in Hannah’s little bundle amongst to excitements of the hospital room, cupcakes to celebrate Hannah’s birthday (thanks Aunt Jes) and the energy of a day of play away from Mommy and Daddy that refused to let them sit still for long. Unfortunately I was awaiting the affects of my pain medication while they were visiting, but Rachael and Abi gave me grace and tried to hug very gently.

The first night Hannah napped in the evening, her first real nap on this side of the womb, and happily nursed for at least 15 minutes per side three times before settling in for the night at 1am. She slept until Mommy encouraged her feeding at 3am and had her first dirty diaper since delivery. Hannah decided to excel in her pottying habits coming in with her daily requirement of dirty diapers not during the regular 24 hours, but at just a few minutes over 12 hours. The nurse was very happy at the fruit of a good nurser.

So as we continue to nap, study, and delight over our newest daughter, we are enjoying her little grunts, snuggling habits, and excited visitors later today who will come to celebrate with us the blessing and miraculous gift of Hannah Joy.

She’s currently sleeping with her Daddy, inching over to be closer to his face so I am going to get off the computer and take advantage of another napping window before Hannah;s next feeding session.

We are blessed beyond belief and thankful for all the prayers, encouragement and support we have and will continue to receive from all our friends and family. It really has been an utter pleasure to share in these moments with you all. And best of all, it has and will continue to be our complete pleasure to share with you our dear little Hannah Joy. Thank you all again.

Happy birthday, little Hannah. Welcome to our world. =)

Moving Mountains

Saw this over here and decided I liked the quote enough I made my own.

I used some scraps from my collection of gift bags, scrapbook papers, construction paper leftovers from other projects, etc, and glued them onto the lid of a shoebox to give it a canvas-like feel.

 [ “Let her sleep for when she wakes she will move mountains.”]

So now it hangs on the nursery door to the girls’ room as a “quiet zone” reminder when we have the youth over and also a precious little reminder of their beautiful potential to “move mountains.” I really love it. Makes me smile. And reminds me of how quickly the time goes – how little time we have to serve and love our children into adults. But it also speaks volumes of their ability to “move mountains” each day, not just in the future.

And I’m very happy with how it turned out. 

And of course I couldn’t have done it without my eager helper. 😉

Little Guy

We had a little guy for respite the past nine days (thanks, Matt, for the math). I can’t give out a whole lot of details about him, but I can tell you that he was tiny enough to utilize all of Hannah’s “new baby” things and sleep for the majority of the day and night (bonus!).

We weren’t given more than a handful of sentences of vague instructions on him so Matt and I studied him to figure him out. Since we weren’t given a general bedtime for him, the first few nights were very trial and error oriented. But we eventually fell into a “normal” routine with him.

The girls adored Little Guy, enjoying his “real life doll” qualities and returning him when their attention spans moved on. “Where baby go?” was a common phrase from Abi as she suddenly came to the reality throughout the day that she hadn’t checked on Little Guy recently.

She was always ready to hold him, 
never turning down a single offer. 

 Look at her little Mommying. =) She was so preciously gentle with him.

Little Guy just snuggled right into our family and provided (Matt and I joked) “training wheels” for our soon-to-be addition of Hannah. I even got to play with cloth diapering Little Guy when he ran out of disposables a day and a half early of his pick-up date.

Little Guy… I don’t know if we’ll ever get a chance to meet you again. But I won’t forget your snuggles. And the way you scaled my shoulder, from the outside in, a few days after you met me until you were comfortably nuzzled in my neck. Thank you for trusting me.

Trust may not come easily to you. Most babies your age are more entertained by faces, studying them and wanting to interact with them. It took you a while to watch my face for more than a glance-by. You studied objects and flocked to fluorescent lights. Maybe faces were too inconsistent for you. Maybe you were guarding yourself. Maybe the lights reminded you of the NICU. Who knows. But thank you for getting to the point of studying my face for a few minutes by the end of your stay. Your eyes spoke volumes.

Precious boy, if I can leave you with nothing else, I want to leave you with the hope you listened to me singing with the congregation on Sunday morning. With your ear to my heart you heard:

” How sweet to hold a newborn baby;
And feel the pride, and joy he brings;
But greater still the calm assurance,
This child can face uncertain days because He lives.
Because He lives (you) can face tomorrow;
Because He lives all fear is gone;
Because I know He holds the future,
And life is worth the living just because He lives.” 
 (“Because He Lives” by Gloria & William Gaither copy write 1971)

And
“I need no other argument, I need no other plea;
It is enough that Jesus died,
And that He died for me.”
(“My Faith has Found a Resting Place” by Lidie Edmunds & William Kirkpatrick to a Norwegian Folk Melody.)

I sang these over you throughout the week. And I prayed over you that you would one day see that despite the pain and loss and uncertainty, Jesus is more than enough. No other argument than Jesus is needed in this world and because of His hope, tomorrow is able to be faced.

Thank you for the opportunity to love you, sweet Little Guy, and if we never meet again, I take comfort in my prayers and my family’s prayers for you not falling on deaf ears.

I loved you like my own, Little Guy, even if we only had you for a week.

How you blessed us.

– Thank you, Jesus.

To Do and Done

So in efforts to communicate trust, encourage autonomy AND teach isolation of tasks as well as responsibility to clean up after the isolate tasks, I stumbled across this idea and of course modified it to fit our needs.

With a three year old and a two year old (plus the reality of one on the way soon), I was trying to find a way to offer them choices (within my ability and personal reigns) of activities throughout the day.

So I came up with this idea spurred off of the other ideas I saw on pinterest that were modified chore chart ideas.

I got three small metal pizza-baking sheets from Walmart for $0.92 a piece. I made sure that a magnet would stick to these trays before purchasing them. 😉

Then I bought a roll of magnetic stick-on tape for $2.99 from Joann Fabrics.

Then I got a roll of painters tape because we didn’t have any for $2.00.

After finding colorful clipart pictures of all the 31 activities I can currently offer our children to do in our household or in our yard, I pasted those activities into a word document. Since we have non-readers, I used bright, colorful pictures and put the words underneath the image to describe the tasks. I decided to print off two copies of the four pages of pictures (one for each child) since some activities I wanted to offer both the girls to do at once. I also added in age-appropriate helper tasks into the mix as well (ex. washing the table, helping with laundry, making their bed – I don’t mind what it looks like-, helping with dishes, setting the table, etc.).

After printing those off onto a cardstock heavy paper, I cut them out in small squares. Then I laminated them (I used clear packing tape because I had it around the house and didn’t have any laminating sheets. This required a significant amount of more work, by the way. But I didn’t mind since I was in no rush to get the project finished). After laminating them, I put a small piece of magnet on the back of each task.

The play activities available.
The chore/helper activities available.
We store all these pieces in a hefty bag. 
I put the chores in a separate bag in the hefty bag so I can easily find them.

I wrote  “To Do” on one side of two of the trays and “Done” on the other side of the same two trays, dividing the areas with a line of tape. Then the third tray poses as an options list for the girls to pick from.

With a little bit of sticky tack, all three trays were easily mounted to the wall at “kid height.”

Each morning I pick out the tasks that I am offering the children to do for that day, allowing me to rotate through some of the tasks they forget about because they are not actively in front of them. I also put up on their “to do” lists two responsibilities per day. The girls then get to pick from the 6 or so items on the options list and move them onto their “to do” part of their lists.

 Rachael’s list (arranged by Rachael)

Abi’s list (arranged by Abi)
The “choices” tray that the girls pick from.
We store the choices in a hefty bag with a magnet 
attached to the back so it hangs onto the microwave. 😉

We keep the lists by the kitchen table. 

When the girls finish one task, they get to decide what they want to do next. After one task is completed and cleaned up completely, they get to move the magnetic picture to the “done” side of the list.

The results of this project?

  • The girls are THRILLED to pick from the tasks and have control in the planning of their day.
  • Things get cleaned up right then and there, not accumulating for a long and exhausting clean-up time at the end of play. 
  • The girls are THRILLED to help out around the house and often pick to do those tasks first. 
  • Creativity and Imagination is fueled by playing with isolated groups of toys (ex. the toolbox saw was used to give “haircuts”) that the girls would have otherwise walked by on the way to their “normal few” toys. 
  • There is more cooperative play due to the variety and newness of toys/activities. 
Completing the Helper Chores on the List: 
 Rachael making her bed
 Abi living up making her bed. hehe, look at her smile.

 Not too bad finished product. 
(I seriously couldn’t care less what it looks like).
Washing the table – oh what fun!
And the chairs too?! Yes please!!!

I have chosen not to limit the play to the “to do list” activities alone (sometimes dolls just have to be a part of the lego play because I have two little “Mommies”), but I have found that the things I thought the girls “needed to play with” each day has grown in variety and their creativity is really blossoming.

I also enjoy about this new way of doing things that I can always adapt the “to do list” options as they grow older. It’s simple to print off a few new choices, laminate them, put a magnetic strip on the back of them and add them to our rotation of activities offered. I like the flexibility, as well, of offering tasks based on the day’s weather, my level of pregnancy restrictions, and the level of mess involved. For example, I coupled painting with washing the table one day. It was nice to have helpers cleaning up in more ways than one. =)

Hopefully this idea is helpful to you too. It has added much joy in accomplishment and independence to our household while allowing Mommy some free time (which will soon all belong to Hannah. hehe) to get some “Mommy only” housecleaning done. 

Total Cost:

$7.75 (excluding cost in ink/paper to print colored pages – since I already had this- and excluding laminating costs – since I just used the tape we had) and about 5 hours from researching the clipart pictures, printing them off, cutting and applying lamination (my method would take longer than laminating them through a machine), putting the tape on the trays and then mounting them to the wall.

Total Items Needed:

  1. 3 flat pizza or cookie trays
  2. Painting tape 
  3. 4-8 cardstock pages for clipart signs
  4. Colored Ink/Printer
  5. Lamination (packing tape or actual laminating sheets)
  6. Roll of tape-backed magnets
  7. Scissors 
  8. Sticky Tack
  9. Ziplock/Hefty or sandwich bag
  10. Time and patience. 😉

I also used the lamination time to pray for my little girls and ask God for help in encouraging their individual likes/dislikes and blooming character more in our daily lives.  This provided a nice opportunity to thank God for the blessing of serving my little girls as well. =)

– Enjoy!

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