{"id":11369,"date":"2008-04-18T10:08:00","date_gmt":"2008-04-18T15:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/todayslegacy.wordpress.com\/2008\/04\/18\/familiar-family-confusion-with-psychotic-features"},"modified":"2008-04-18T10:08:00","modified_gmt":"2008-04-18T15:08:00","slug":"familiar-family-confusion-with-psychotic-features","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/todayslegacy.net\/index.php\/2008\/04\/18\/familiar-family-confusion-with-psychotic-features\/","title":{"rendered":"Familiar, Family Confusion – with psychotic features"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"<\/a> You know, there comes a point in your life in which you have to decide about family. Some people just have a predisposition to keep family contacts, regardless of how far away the family members are, and then there\u2019s the rest of us\u2026 we suck. And then there comes the extra complication of moving, whether it be out of state or cross-country. But then there\u2019s this weird feeling that overtakes me sometimes\u2026 it\u2019s the storm of wanted relationships that are lost\u2026 and yet not even knowing where to start. <\/span>
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It\u2019s funny but moving cross-country at 8 kind of trapped me between two worlds in some ways. See, there\u2019s this part of my life that I could refer to as my childhood that seems to be stranded in California and then my adolescence is somehow caught in Cincinnati. But in the passage of time on the road between, I seem to have lost some belongings. California seems like a dream, my extended family is mere evidences that just maybe California was real at times. But then it\u2019s like I get caught in this childish naivety<\/span> that what is not close, distance-wise, cannot be close. And then forgotten, lost friends and family fall in the wake of this Titanic thinking.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s funny how family means something completely different after getting married. You know, there\u2019s some marriages where the newly weds\u2019 in-laws seem to be family and then there\u2019s other situations where I hear the \u201cdreaded in-laws\u201d concept. You know, it\u2019s the concept that Hollywood Hallmarks as the \u201ctypical\u201d situation; stiff and unwavering family traditions that refuse \u201cnon-blood\u201d relationships and marry-ins.<\/p>\n

But even beyond the family context, I think age teaches an adult to value family more, yet it\u2019s kind of funny that children appear to be more adaptable to the change of a growing family. But then again\u2026 all I can speak from is my own experiences and observations of other families and my own.<\/p>\n

I must confess, though, that I have found myself stuck in a tangle of regret and determination. I don\u2019t want to be \u201cfar\u201d from family members while sharing a meal. I don\u2019t want to have absolutely no idea about my sister\u2019s life or even my sisters-in-laws\u2019 lives. I don\u2019t want to wake up in ten years, 300,000 miles from my family only to find that even if I lived down the street from them, I wouldn<\/span>\u2019t know them.<\/p>\n

Since I moved from California at such a young age, I didn<\/span>\u2019t contact my extended family. I never wrote much beyond the first year of moving. I got absorbed in \u201chere and now\u201d and slowly began to think less of my \u201cCalifornia family\u201d and then they became strangers.
And part of me doesn<\/span>\u2019t know how to relate to them from this point on, I\u2019m not going to lie. And there\u2019s much regret in those thoughts. And then there\u2019s a determination birthed from that processing spurring me on to maintain current family relationships.<\/p>\n

Yet there\u2019s this funny lapse that I do quite frequently. I\u2019m in Ohio, my extended family is all over the place\u2026 and there\u2019s this odd disconnect between the two as if they both cannot exist. Both California and Cincinnati cannot exist simultaneously. The California I remember is no more. And yet so is the Cincinnati. And then I wonder, so where does that leave me?<\/p>\n

Anyone else out there stuck in a similar oddity or is it just my psychotic features showing?<\/span>
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– This counseling session brought to you in high definition recording upon mail-in request. – HA! (Sorry for unloading a rambling blah this morning.)<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

You know, there comes a point in your life in which you have to decide about family. Some people just have a predisposition to keep family contacts, regardless of how far away the family members are, and then there\u2019s the rest of us\u2026 we suck. And then there comes the extra complication of moving, whether… Continue Reading →<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11369","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-uncategorized","clear"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/todayslegacy.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11369","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/todayslegacy.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/todayslegacy.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/todayslegacy.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/todayslegacy.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11369"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/todayslegacy.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11369\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/todayslegacy.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11369"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/todayslegacy.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11369"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/todayslegacy.net\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11369"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}